Is Fear of Disappointment Holding You Back?
I want to ask you a question.
Are you living your life based on avoiding disappointment?
Now, here’s what I mean by that, most of us have been raised to avoid disappointing our parents, our teachers and that leads to us making decisions based on the fear of avoiding disappointing other person. And, there is also the case of avoiding disappointing yourself again.
Many of us have references of when we tried to do something or said something or promised to do something to ourselves or to another person and we haven’t been able to come through with our promise. Well that leads to a condition that a Harvard professor called “Disappointment Avoidance.”
What happens from a neurological prospective is every time that we think about achieving a goal that we haven’t yet achieved, or achieving a goal that we tried in the past that may have not worked and because of the emotional, physical and maybe even spiritual pain that we got as a result of not achieving that goal we develop a neurological imprint of that pain and then when we try to do it again, guess what happens, that memory sends an electrical signal to our brain and our body that causes us to stop taking action, to stop doing what we need to do in order to achieve that goal…
Here are a few things that can help you deal with this disappointment avoidance:
Remember, your past does not equal your future. In other words, it doesn’t matter how many times you’ve tried and failed, as long as you pick yourself up and try it again, maybe in a slightly different way, you will allow yourself have more ways to succeed, instead of allowing disappointment avoidance to hold you back.
Think of what you may be avoiding and think of how you can take action anyways. That will keep you moving forward and more importantly, it will interrupt the neurological patterns of fear that keep you away from avoiding disappointment avoidance and get you towards getting more pleasure and success.
Here’s to your success: